Parental Alienation Day 2025 is on Friday, April 25, 2025: HELP! Custody, Therapy, Parental Alienation?
Friday, April 25, 2025 is Parental Alienation Day 2025.
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I went thru almost the same situation and belioeve it or not they do listen to kids. It doesnt matter what you say if the child speaks up they go by that. I had shared custody with my ex 10 yrs ago they brainwashed the boys so badly that tey would say the worst things about me.In the beginning it started like dad said this and that and he would ask the boy to tell me stuff, until my ex started taking them shopping o n the day when im suppodes to pick them up and say if u stay with daddy ill buy a lot of toys for you and on the days they had visits with him he would tell them i left them because i wanted to have fun without them. my kids started asking if they can stay longer with their dad then visit was and i agreed 1 time. After that they asked all the time cause they did soooo much shopping for them.Until my sons refused to come so we had to call the police and they were like u need to file in court by the time court was set up and all that my kids have been brainwashed soooooooooooo badly. Finally his attorney got a testimony from my 7 yr and 5 yr old and he was awarded SOLE CUSTODY! because it was th ekids wish. After he got that piece of paper he did everything to stop my visits.Now 3 years later of dealing with all this my oldest son says' mommy everything they said they lied they didnt want you around me because they didnt like you but mom i love you and i wanna live with you i cant tell this to dad.
It will be a very long process for you hun. Im telling you my experience happend in NYS and they do listen to what kids have to say.
It will be a rough road for you and especially girls tend to be attached to dads so much.
I pray and with you soooo much luck in this I know how painful this experience is.
God bless you
PS. I know how many shed tears there will be :(
Please take care I dont know you but i feel like ou are going thru the same thing as i did.
What are good resources for overcoming parental alienation disorder?
Read the book by Dr. Amy J. Baker. Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome. Breaking the Ties that Bind. Also online there are many resources on parental alienation and begin to talk to your dads family. They will be glad you did and so will you. I have other links on Parental Alienation on my web site, www.communicationhelper.com
parental alienation....?
It seems to me that you bear some responsibility to help the kids do their part of the relationship, to allow contact, and to help the kids have respect for him (like avoiding talking bad about him etc). From what you write it seems you are doing that. I realize you don't want to make this an issue you have to nag the kids about, because that is negative, so you can only do what you can and leave it at that.
However, the father bears the responsibility to be proactive concerning his side of the relationship and I think he has more responsibility to take action then the kids do. The phone rings at both ends and if he wants more phone contact he should move out to make that happen.
Concerning school issues it seems reasonable to give him a sheet of paper with contact names, phone numbers, and website address of the school (I would keep a copy in your files with the date you provided him with it). Beyond that he should take initiative to contact the appropriate people.
