Love Litigating Lawyers Day 2024 is on Saturday, August 31, 2024: Different strokes for different folks, Rush loves free speech, but only for him?

Saturday, August 31, 2024 is Love Litigating Lawyers Day 2024.

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Umm...

It really doesn't matter what Rush says, he's a douche bag and does his show is just for ratings like Glen Beck. Anyone that listens to what they have to say needs to seek professional help...

What does a Family Attorney actually do?

First of all, very few lawyers represent people charged with murder. So unless you plan to become a high powered defense attorney and take on big bear cases like that you will never even touch a murder case in your entire career, even as a criminal defense attorney.

And to be honest, I actually believed that criminal defense clients were easier to deal with than family law clients. Criminal law clients were always much more appreciative, whereas a lot of nasty divorce case clients are so jaded by their love gone sour dispute, that they are unreasonable and difficult to reason with. Many will just want to litigate forever and nit pick every little thing just to try and punish their ex. This also harms their children, if they have any, and they get caught in the middle. But because they are so jaded, they don't even think about that, and don't want to listen to anybody's advice to knock it off. And it is not like the only lawyers are criminal defense or family law attorneys. There are a ton of different practice areas you could go into other than those.

And family attorneys do not represent people for domestic child abuse. If you wanted to do that, you would be a criminal prosecutor, because child abuse is a crime. If you choose to become a criminal prosecutor, you are a state employee, you do not get to pick your cases. They are assigned to you, although you can get into a niche, and they may assign you primarily certain types of cases. You also cannot do any legal work on the side if you are a prosecutor. If a prosecutor did that, they could be disbarred. So you would have to pick and choose which one you would rather, and if you choose to be a prosecutor, you got to be hired by a DA's office. DA positions have actually become very competitive to get these days, so that isn't a for sure bet, but you can increase the likelihood by doing internships, and working in the courthouse and try to network, etc.

As far as I know, family law salaries can vary significantly depending on how hard you work, how many clients you have, possibly how wealthy they are, and thus how much they are willing to pay for your services, but it all depends, like most areas of law.

How do you get over a fight with your husband?

Dear Girlie, I completely understand the kind of relationship rut you are in. I have been in the same position you are now. Its true that one person says something critical, and the other person responds with something equally harsh. Your off and running in a viscious cycle that has now become your normal life! Its so painful, so awful, and will make your life a living hell.

For years I kept doing the same thing over and over. Blame. Criticism. Feeling VERY sorry for my self. Wish my husband just "understood" me. I could go on and on, but you get the picture...

You ask what to do. I'm happy to tell you what turned our marriage from painful to loving.

You know you have been fighting over the same issues for years. If you've said it once, you've said it 201 times, right? I know your guy has heard you. ENOUGH COMPLAINING!

Here's what you do. Tomorrow when you get up is the first day of a happy marriage. You're going to start the day with kindness. Maybe its getting his coffee ready. Or fresh towels for his shower. Tell him he's kinda cute before he walks out the door.

YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BRING UP ONE NEGATIVE ISSUE. NOT ONE!

When he comes home from work, ask him how his day was. Listen with eyes that show you care. Instead of complaining about your day find something light and positive to tell him about your life.

I was in such a negative rut that I had a hard time finding anything to say. If you feel the same way - SAY NOTHING. Smile. Just smile.

At first this is going to be very difficult and feel downright weird. Its not easy to shift your focus from feeling neglected at critical to feeling grateful and encouraging. Furthermore, don't expect instant kindness from your husband. Both of you have become so used to causing each other pain. It will take a while to break this pattern. It will take a while to build something better and gain your husband's trust. Just remember, it takes two to bicker. A lone bickerer quickly has no one to feed the argument so the argument will naturally have to dry up.

Don't get mad if he keeps the game going. Change the subject. Take a walk. Just don't say one harsh thing. Secretly congratulate yourself on your self-control. Remember, ITS THE LITTLE KINDNESSES THAT MATTER. YOU ARE NOT GIVING HIM ONE OF YOUR KIDNEYS, YOU'RE BRINGING A BIT OF SWEETNESS INTO YOUR MARRIAGE.

On a personal note, I was amazed how much better things became in my marriage. It took about a month for my guy to not think the bitchfest was going to continue. Now, what a difference! From arguing my point into the ground (he often asked why I did'nt become a litigating lawyer) to just letting the negative thoughts die unspoken. The spirit in our home is so much more fun. My husband no longer dreads walking in the front door, steeling himself against the Bitch-Du-Jour.

You can make your life a good one, sweetie. I'm rooting for you.